Random Acts of Kindness

one random act of kindness

Nothing is too small. Just one act of kindness is enough to brighten up someone’s day.

 

The Most Neglected Kindness

I was watching the news today and found out that the Singapore Kindness Movement has dedicated the month of May for the Kindness Day SG cause. It’s a warm feeling that May 2016 is a month of kindness as it reminds myself to be kind to myself and others during my birthday month.

Kindness Day SG 2016

I believe one of the most neglected kindness is being kind to ourselves. Often, we beat ourselves up for our supposed failures, the things we didn’t do, the regrets we have and the unkind things we have done not only to others but to ourselves.

How can we be truly kind to others if we are not kind to ourselves? So, let us first start the kindness movement by acknowledging our imperfect selves and learn to be nicer to ourselves. This is because “Kindness inspires kindness”.

Kindness inspires kindness

Passion Has a Timeline

I like the words, spoken by Mr Bjorn Low when he was interviewed for the book “Men of Singapore”: “Passion has a timeline. It is important, so don’t leave it until you retire, or it might not be there waiting for you.” In his case, he wants to become a farmer, so he knows that if he waits until he retires, he won’t have the energy and strength to work as a farmer.

Key reason for pursuing passion

The key reason why I believe we should not hold off pursuing our passions is that we never know what tomorrow will bring. Will tomorrow come for me? We always live on the basis that we can always do something tomorrow, but as each day passes, the probability that tomorrow might not come for us will become higher.

Limited time on earth

Ahh, I’m being my sensitive self again maybe because my birthday has just passed and I believe I already hit the midpoint timeline of my life. There is this nagging feeling that I only have a limited amount of time on earth to do what I wanted to do and up till this point in life, I feel that I have yet to achieve much. Each day brings with itself an urgency to accomplish my goals. If the day went well and I did what I wanted for the day, I felt wonderful. I felt more confident that tomorrow will be another day like this. Likewise, if I was lazy or spent time just letting time passed by, I felt that I have wasted my precious time. Of course, I have learnt to catch myself during down times like these before the moods spiral into more negative emotions, and motivated myself that I will do better starting from now. Jack Sai, another of the men interviewed in the book, said it right, “You have to be willing to fail but not give up. As much as you wish to succeed, you have to also realize that success will not be overnight.”

Mental attitude is most important

It is common to fall short of our own expectations. The most important is not to give up. I have learnt that I can lift my mood there and then when I don’t fall into the trap of leaving positive actions that I need to take until tomorrow saying that “tomorrow will be a better day”. Instead, I inspire myself to do it there and then, as this will make my mood better as my day will then end on a positive note because I have taken action now, and not sometime in the future. Your mental attitude will determine how your day will be like more than anything else, so keeping guard of your mental chatter is of utmost importance. “Taking action now” is the best habit that one can develop, because the only gift we all have is “the present”. When you take positive action today, it’s no doubt that tomorrow will definitely be a better day.

 

Make a Difference

Charles Swindoll (evangelical Christian pastor, author, educator and radio preacher) tells of a businessman and his wife, busy to the point of exhaustion. Needing a break, they escaped for a few days of relaxation at an ocean-front hotel. One night a violent storm lashed the beach and sent giant waves beating against the shore. As he lay in bed the man thought of his own somewhat stormy life.

The wind finally abated and as the new day dawned the man went to the beach to see what damage had been done. As he walked along he saw that the beach was covered with starfish which had been thrown ashore and stranded. He knew that they would not survive the heat of the sun later in the day.

starfish

Then the man saw a young boy who had also seen the plight of the starfish and was picking them up, one at a time, and flinging them back into the sea.

“Why are you doing that?” he asked, as soon as he was close enough to be heard. “Can’t you see that one person will never make a difference – you’ll never be able to get all those starfish back into the water. There are just too many.”

“Yes, that’s true,” the boy replied as he bent over and picked up another and tossed it into the water. Then as he watched it sinking below the surface he looked at the man, smiled and said, “But I did make a difference to that one!”

Although we can’t change the world overnight we’ve all got what it takes to make a difference where we are. Instead of wringing our hands we can put them to work. That way, instead of being part of the problem, we’ll be part of the answer, even if only in a small way.

– Wesley Harris, You’ve What It Takes

Happy Vesak Day

Kamakura Great Buddha

Happy Vesak Day to all the Buddhists in Singapore.
Buddhists celebrate the birth, enlightenment and death of Buddha on this holy day.